Bulletin Article
April 22, 2001


By Doug Long

Lets explore Love VS. Passion, the first thing we must do is identify what the difference is, when I was a teenager, I thought I knew what love was, as soon as I locked eyes with someone, I knew I was "in love". Fortunately for me the other person wasn't nearly as interested as I. I must admit there was a great deal of confusion about the whole process of falling in love. I have since grown up and gotten married and now I think I have a much better idea of what true love is. I was quite surprised when I realized the emotion that I first experienced wasn't the same emotion that I experienced later when I really found myself in love with someone. I didn't get short of breath anymore, fumble over my words, sweat, and generally make an idiot out of myself trying to impress my wife. I also realized after I got married that when we got into an argument, my love for my wife didn't change, I still loved her even though I was spitting mad. Indeed my love for her still grows each day. My only conclusion can be that the feeling that I got as a teenager, and young adult wasn't love at all, it was passion. I have come to realize that passion can get you into a lot of trouble, but love won't. Love is like the mortar that holds the facade on the building, passion is the fancy facade. It looks pretty, but it would be nothing without the mortar, and passion would be nothing with out love. Love takes time to grow though, you don't fall in love, love grows every day, and even though it isn't as exciting as passion, it is much more rewarding. The Bible tells us what love is.
Galatians 5:22-23
"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." Love is a fruit of the spirit,
1cor 13:4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, love is not pompous, it is not inflated,
5 it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,
6 it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.
7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails.

I don't see in this description anything about sweaty palms, or hearts thumping or passionate looks, but I do see a foundation to a wonderful life.