Bulletin Article
March 3, 2002

The Pain of Divorce

By: Doug Long

Recently I was talking with my wife about Mr. Rogers Neighborhood and Sesame Street. Mr. Rogers broached the subject of divorce on his show because he sometimes used the personal experiences of the cast for subjects that the show would cover. In this case Mr. McFealey was apparently having marital problems. Sesame Street didn't cover the subject, and the reason to me was telling, and one any adult considering such a move should think about with all sobriety. Sesame Street was going to do the show but when they showed it to a focus group the kids got so upset that the producers decided to shelve the show. What is telling to me is that Sesame Street did broadcast a show about death. Mr. Hooper on Sesame Street died and they wanted to explain it to the kids truthfully. I don't want to minimize the pain a family goes through when someone close to them dies. As we all know the pain can be tremendous. What surprised me was that when parents divorce it can be every bit as traumatic to the child as if someone close to them died, and in some cases depending on the kid it can be more painful. The Bible speaks on the subject of divorce. In Malachi 2:16 the author tells us,

16"For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the LORD of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously."

Jesus in Matthew 5:31-33 says that marriage Is sacred and binding

31 "Furthermore it has been said, "Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' 32But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

I don't think anybody in our group is considering taking this awful step, but I thought I would write on the subject anyway because it is still important for us as parents to realize that the consequences of our actions go beyond ourselves.